Daughter forbids grandparent from seeing 4- and 7-year-old grandkids after car accident: 'She's the reason I'm an absent grandparent'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Oct 2, 2025 11:00 AM EDT

Who knew one little accident could cause so much family drama! 

There comes a certain time in every person's life when they're getting a bit too old to drive. Usually this doesn't happen until they're pretty elderly, old enough to have really bad vision or to have gotten into an accident or 3. A lot of times, there's a whole family conversation around banning this person from driving: Grandpa doesn't always want to hear that he can't drive to meet up with his. golfing buddies. Grandparents want their freedom, too! But when you're becoming a road hazard, someone's got to take those keys away. 

This grandparent has kind of the opposite problem: they got into a really minor car accident that made their adult child totally flip her lid. She forbade the grandparent from ever driving their grandkids ever again! That's perhaps a bit of an overreaction, but still, there are other ways that the grandparent could see the kids, right? Well… Mom didn't care for those visits, either. It's opened a whole can of worms, as you can read all about below. 

Next up, read about the executive directors who accidentally sent some private internal meeting footage to a job candidate, discussing her interview (!): "Do I just pretend I didn't see the recap?"

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    "Am l the As***** for moving across the country and telling my daughter that they are the reason I am an “absent grandparent”

    So I have two grandkids that are 4 and 7. I live about 45 minutes away from them. At the beginning I was still working so it was hard to make time to visit them. I would go up to visit them and
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    it sadly was not fun. I am not baby crazy and do not want to spend my whole day watching a kid sleep. So I would stay for 2 to 3 hours beofre going home. My daughter hated that I wouldn't
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    spend more time and I told her when they are older we will bond more. I got in a car accident, it wasn't bad and it was my fault. The sun got in my eyes and I
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    bumbed into someone's car. In total it was like 300 dollars of damage since their car had dents in the back. It was very minor accident.
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    After that my daughter forbad me from driving anywhere with her kids, so now when I go up, I can't do anything with the kiddos. There is only so much I can do in the house and I would have loved to
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    take them out to places. I have asked her to drive down since I live in a walkable area but no. It is too difficult to get them loaded up and down here.
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    I still tried but the more she didn't want to visit me the more I got tired of this. Not to mention she was always on me about not being more involved. I have told her so many time that you don't let me do
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    much with them. My breaking point was last summer. I was babysitting them in the summer and I brought up a kids sprinkler. You connect it to the hose and the kids run through it on the
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    splash pad. The kids had a great time but my daughter was ped since it ruined the grass. The water made mud and kids running messed up the grass.
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    After that I just stopped trying, I told her to take he kids to me and she refused. I am retiring and selling my home.
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    I wish to move near the blue mountains which is across the country. I told all te kids and everyone wa a happy for me but my daughter. We got a huge fight about me being a sh
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    grandparent. I told her she is the reason I am absent grandparent. She calle me aj
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    AITA for moving across the country and telling my daughter she is the reason I am an absent grandparent. I may
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    be a j for being harsh and not taking her feelings into account
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